Dec 06 '13
0 notesLove Lessons From the Film “High Fidelity” (My Interpretation):
- It’s important to understand that everyone has their fair share of both “good” and “bad” relationships. Instead of constantly dwelling on them, it is best to merely give them the acknowledgement they deserve and redirect your focus towards maintaining a healthy and productive life. In other words, simply accept the lessons learned from each relationship and apply them to the next. It is better to allow your past romances, both successful and failed, to serve as a source of strength rather than pain. Look fondly upon the good times you shared with others and concentrate on how you will behave differently in the partnerships to come. Remember, jealousy and obsession generally lead to insanity. Just suck it up and move on—it’s not the end of the world, for there will always be plenty of other fish in the sea. You may possibly even meet someone who is “better” or “more right” for you. There is literally someone out there for everyone, you just need to be patient and go about your “search” in the right way.
- A healthy relationship is built upon a foundation of compounded mutual trust, respect, honesty and commitment. (These “requirements” supersede any immediate sexual or romantic tension or any other forms of “raw chemistry,” which are still necessary in the formation of a relationship or other bond, but just not as important.) Fidelity is truly essential if two people wish to foster a romance capable of promoting both individual and collective growth/development. How can someone possibly expect a relationship to function, let alone succeed, if both people are constantly arguing, abusing and mistrusting one another, and doing so without any solid sense of commitment? The aspects of your intended relationship must be collectively discussed between both you and your [potential] partner before you date, continue dating or if any problems arise. A dysfunctional relationship is not only detrimental to the respective lives of the couple, but their families and friends as well.
- It’s okay to simultaneously explore several opportunities such as dating other people, but only as long as you don’t do so in a way that violates the trust and greater sense of faithfulness between you and your partner. No one person should feel obligated or committed to another person unless they directly confess their fidelity, especially if things aren’t working out or if it’s very early on in a relationship. (As mentioned in the above point, discuss things in advance or whenever problems arise.) Just be honest and don’t lie to your potential or current partner(s) or others. You can still remain loyal and faithful, but if you’d like to try seeing other people, or even when you’re single just take interest in multiple people, then, just go ahead and play the field. Doing so is not being promiscuous. Just do it respectfully, because sometimes seeing others is best. It enables you to develop a stronger sense of who you like more, as well as a better idea of what you want from a relationship. Remember, space is good and so is figuring out not only your “love language,” but which traits you desire & value most in an ideal partner.
- Finally, (and most importantly), High Fidelity asserts that girls/women are people too! They are intelligent, compassionate and sophisticated human beings equal to men. Females are not an inferior sex and do not possess “lesser or underdeveloped instincts, thinner skins, or generally cruller attitudes.” They do not actively seek mistreatment, abuse or misfortune nor do they simply allow such things to occur to themselves or others. Just because a girl doesn’t like you doesn’t make her a “bitch”. Also, they are not the bane of man’s existence and do not solely live to serve him or any other person. Women should be, and are, entitled to the same rights as men and should be afforded the same opportunities as well. Lastly, all women deserve to be respected and cared for like anyone else.
